We must never forget where our lives and all the possessions we take for granted in our lives come from. By the grace of God we are provided for, yet sometimes we can forget and slip into the ‘it was my will and my skill’ way of thinking real quickly, especially when our egos are fed by the world.
Many of us have prayed for things to come into our lives, or change in our lives, and once God provides, we, a first, will thank God for blessing us. As time goes on, and what we asked for starts to benefit us, or increase for the better, we can get caught up in the feeling of accomplishment, especially when the results begin to show to others. In time, if not careful, we have convinced ourselves that we are in control of the outcome and even boast of our magnificence, only to ultimately be stripped of all that we believed to be of our making.
Remember, our lives are gifts, not privileges, and never to be confused with being deserved or earned, thus it is imperative that we keep in the FRONT OF OUR MINDS that it was not OUR will, but God’s.
Referencing Deuteronomy 8:11-20
To betray someone, that is, to hurt someone by not giving help or doing something morally wrong, has levels of intensity depending on the amount of love, trust, and commitment invested into the relationship.
As the Word of God explains, when an enemy shows deception, it is EXPECTED. That level of betrayal is hardly felt and the emotional strain from it can be avoided altogether BECAUSE of the expectation. However, when the enemy is loved by you, trusted by you, and you are committed to this person for WHATEVER reason, and have fully invested time and resources into this person and they betray…. the results can be devastating. How do you recover? How do you get through? How do you find forgiveness? So much has been burned and since trust is a VERY DIFFICULT THING TO REBUILD, this can become an aftershock that can last a lifetime.
Now how does this relate to us and our relationship with God? Many of us have this delusion that God can be walked away from AT WILL, vows can be un-kept (that was me), games can be played, we can get tired of God and try the enemy for awhile and leave God as an afterthought, we can play church until we get what we THINK WE WANT and then just ‘dip out’; not just ONCE, but OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN… we reproach God and expect that it has NO effect. Unfortunately… it DOES.
Ask yourself, how would you feel if someone you LOVE, CHERISH, AND HAVE SACRIFICED FOR did that to you? Would you be okay with it? Would you brush it off? Would you continue to show them forgiveness and understanding and love as God has for us in our continued betrayals? Is this FAIR to God? And would God be justified in turning God’s back on us when we reproach God? I wonder…
Referencing- Psalms 55:11-14
The saying ‘what’s worth having is worth working for’ is how we usually validate the value of what we desire. The thought of giving something freely, is in so many cases, unacceptable to the majority of us, because we have been taught that if is not worked for, it is not worth anything.
As parents, we give gifts to our children, only to usually watch them show little to no regard to the gift, yet the same child will cherish that thing he or she earned. This is something that we take with us through our lives… we use this in every aspect of our lives, ESPECIALLY love. Many have been emotionally scarred because of the given not earned concept of love… I gave them my love and they threw it away. Why? because they did not do anything to EARN it. This example connects with the Word of God in that we are spiritually spoiled and rarely appreciate what God gives to us everyday, and what Christ gave to us many, many years ago. Not counting the events that lead to is crucifixion; the beatings, ridicule, mocking, disrespect and desertion of those who vowed to be by Christ side through it all… all of this so that we would have life, yet what do we do with the gift? many of us take the blood shed for our transgressions, and spit it right back in God’s face.
The point is to appreciate the gifts of God. Appreciate the sacrifice of life so that we ALL could continue to live, and always be reminded that this gift, honestly could NEVER BE EARNED.
Referencing John 3:16-17
I like to watch the television show, ‘The Big Bang Theory’ because it will give you a glimpse into the world of scientific theory and practices that are fueled by a desire to know in order to exploit, or control for the sake of arrogantly seeking power; (they try to make it funny, though, and they do).
In one of the episodes, the character Amy Ferra-Fowler describes love as, ‘a mixture of chemicals in the brain that are then described as love’. When I FIRST heard this, I was taken back a bit because of my spiritual understanding of what love is through trial and error, coupled with Divine guidance and was ABOUT to call what she said a futile attempt to further debunk the existence of The Father, THUS debunking the true existence of love, until I further realized that the statement was VERY CORRECT. Let’s get to it…
As I further researched this phenomenon, I came across articles that explained the process that the brain goes through in order to simulate what we deem as love at the time of encounter. There are three known chemicals that are created by the brain that process what we feel when we ‘feel love’; they are,
Noradrenaline is a chemical that is produced by the brain that aids in the production of adrenaline. This is what gets the heart racing, blood pumping and such, especially in the first positive encounters, or in essence, can be the culprit of the term, ‘love at first site’; one of the most deceptive feelings that almost all of us have experienced.
Dopamine is the chemical that makes us feel ‘good’ about the situation, usually fueled by the desire to be with the person because of the time spent with the person, the positive feeling of connection or common interests, intimacy, etc….
Phenylethylamine is the chemical that allows the other two chemicals to be released into the body, which in turn, provides that drunk feeling of overwhelming love for the person in question, especially when the feeling are relatively new and exciting. This is where we would start to ‘fall in love’ so to speak.
Those who are science majors, especially in the realm of neural sciences know that this was a short summation of the three elements used to characterize what love is in its physical form. These three chemicals that are naturally produced by the brain and then distributed throughout the body only SIMULATE feelings of love and do NOT create love in its truth because they are ultimately nothing but chemicals.
The essence of love is not something that any person can provide to another WITHOUT a source. To me, this is why love is limited, undervalued and ultimately un-achievable because it is based on a chemical reaction that, once dissipated, becomes a passing illusion to the one who produced it towards another. It is why the longer someone is out of sight, they are out of mind; it is why these chemicals are frequently based on something physical or outside of ourselves and never passes that point; it is why the average person who did not get what they wanted form a delusional ‘love relationship‘ shuns the feeling because it was only that… a feeling, and was confused as something genuine. This is why so many people have taken their own lives when someone they produced massive amounts of chemicals for taints the mixture with pain and betrayal, thus causing the person to seek a permanent undo-able solution to a seemingly devastating situation that is nothing but the mind having NO POINT OF RELIEF from all the waste built up from the ‘feeling’.
‘Love don’t live here anymore’… it never did.
So where do we tap into love… true love… unending love… unconditional love? I’m glad you asked for in part two, we seek the source of love.
Take a moment to look at the image above… many of us, when it comes to our desires, goals, choices and overall vision for our lives do NOT see past the 3 degrees of focus. No concern is shown for those that can be affected by the choices we make, whether they be positive or otherwise. No consideration is taken for those that are overlooked or hurt physically, or emotionally from the ultimate selfishness and/or lack of thinking things through.
For example, a person who deals drugs does it for the money, that is their primary care, yet they do not see how it affects their ‘loved ones’ until one or more are targeted by their rivals. Yet, the rival itself has no concern for the ones in their blind spot because like the person for whom they are after, they suffer from the 3 degree vision as well. The cycle can be endless in its negative effects.
As I expound what I deem ‘peripheral values’, we will further look into what it takes to extend our inner viewpoints to the rest of those that are around us thus creating a vision of care for those affected by our decisions and actions.
The hell that we ENDURE will NOT change our Divine value.
The hell that we CAUSE is another story altogether.