I talked about the less commonly known reason why infidelity occurs with the man; feeling that you’re unsafe around your spouse can force a man to seek safety in the arms of someone else, whether it be his mother (the momma’s boy), or another woman, so to speak. On the other part of the spectrum, women commit infidelity as well, yet I’ve found that their reasons actually stem from one major area… the loss of virtue.
Virtue defines as an admirable quality, or having good morale values. This is some thing that is not given naturally, yet is learned and earned over time. yet, just like it is earned, it can be given away for something far from virtue. I believe that ALL women are virtuous, yet with circumstances and negative situations, can lose sight of their virtuousness. In the Word of God; the Old Testament, in the book of Proverbs, chapter 12, verse 4, it states that the virtuous woman is a crown to her husband. Also in the book of Proverbs, chapter 31, verses 10 and 11, ties both the virtue of the woman and the safety that the mans feels in her virtue. A woman of virtue becomes the protection to the man’s integrity, yet like stated before, when issues arise within her relationship, or even within herself, virtue can be removed from the fore front and something else that creates a negative value within that woman can become the defining aspect of that woman.
I realized that circumstances, usually outside the woman’s inner circle can sometimes cause her to place her virtue on the back burner, so to speak, to deal with the situation, yet she never strays too far away from her virtuousness. In other occasions, when the circumstance happens WITHIN her inner circle, the removal of virtue can last longer, and depending on the frequency and consistency of the issue, especially when the Enemy has infiltrated her inner home through her spouse children, close family or even closer friends, she can ultimately lose sight of the virtue that is hers and hers alone. She ceases being the lady that she is, and degrades to less of a woman.
She starts to fall into an oppressive state of consciousness and without re-connecting with Spirit the degradation increases. What’s worse, is when the spouse assists in her removal of virtue and losing of sight. When he assaults the lady in her and tears from her a sense of confidence, trust and integrity, never to help replenish the inner love that makes her the woman she is and the lady she used to be. Soon, she seeks a reconnect to her virtue and sometimes, with the influence of the Enemy is deceived into thinking that her virtue lies in another man (there are other traps, yet we are talking about infidelity now). She gravitates to this person, who, in fact, is not the source of her virtue. (Remember before I mentioned a re-connection with Spirit?) Anyway, she becomes sucked into deception, depression and turns in to the foolish woman that tears her house down with her own hands.
As with all things of God, virtue can be restored; it however, can take time depending how far the woman has strayed. I say this to my men who have wife’s, fiance’s, or even girlfriends: do whatever you can to help her keep her virtue. It is what will enhance your life with her, and increase your safety in her. If you know you have assaulted her virtue, go to God for the path that will help her return. It’s not about fault, in either a man’s lack of safety, nor a woman’s removed virtue. It’s about getting back the the Garden. (Coming soon).