Love chemistry- Not to be confused with actual love: the problem, Part One

I like to watch the television show, ‘The Big Bang Theory’ because it will give you a glimpse into the world of scientific theory and practices that are fueled by a desire to know in order to exploit, or control for the sake of arrogantly seeking power; (they try to make it funny, though, and they do).

In one of the episodes, the character Amy Ferra-Fowler describes love as, ‘a mixture of chemicals¬†in the brain that are then described as love’. When I FIRST heard this, I was taken back a bit because of my spiritual understanding of what love is through trial and error, coupled with Divine guidance and was ABOUT to call what she said a futile attempt to further debunk the existence of The Father, THUS debunking the true existence of love, until I further realized that the statement was VERY CORRECT. Let’s get to it…

As I further researched this phenomenon, I came across articles that explained the process that the brain goes through in order to simulate what we deem as love at the time of encounter. There are three known chemicals that are created by the brain that process what we feel when we ‘feel love’; they are,

  • Noradrenaline
  • Dopamine
  • Phenylethylamine

Noradrenaline is a chemical that is produced by the brain that aids in the production of adrenaline. This is what gets the heart racing, blood pumping and such, especially in the first positive encounters, or in essence, can be the culprit of the term, ‘love at first site’; one of the most deceptive feelings that almost all of us have experienced.

Dopamine is the chemical that makes us feel ‘good’ about the situation, usually fueled by the desire to be with the person because of the time spent with the person, the positive feeling of connection or common interests, intimacy, etc….

Phenylethylamine is the chemical that allows the other two chemicals to be released into the body, which in turn, provides that drunk feeling of overwhelming love for the person in question, especially when the feeling are relatively new and exciting. This is where we would start to ‘fall in love’ so to speak.

Those who are science majors, especially in the realm of neural sciences know that this was a short summation of the three elements used to characterize what love is in its physical form. These three chemicals that are naturally produced by the brain and then distributed throughout the body only SIMULATE feelings of love and do NOT create love in its truth because they are ultimately nothing but chemicals.

The essence of love is not something that any person can provide to another WITHOUT a source. To me, this is why love is limited, undervalued and ultimately un-achievable because it is based on a chemical reaction that, once dissipated, becomes a passing illusion to the one who produced it towards another. It is why the longer someone is out of sight, they are out of mind; it is why these chemicals are frequently based on something physical or outside of ourselves and never passes that point; it is why the average person who did not get what they wanted form a delusional ‘love relationship‘ shuns the feeling because it was only that… a feeling, and was confused as something genuine. This is why so many people have taken their own lives when someone they produced massive amounts of chemicals for taints the mixture with pain and betrayal, thus causing the person to seek a permanent undo-able solution to a seemingly devastating situation that is nothing but the mind having NO POINT OF RELIEF from all the waste built up from the ‘feeling’.

‘Love don’t live here anymore’… it never did.

So where do we tap into love… true love… unending love… unconditional love? I’m glad you asked for in part two, we seek the source of love.