I have heard countless songs, sayings and such about how a ‘woman’ can’t raise a boy to be a man, and that you do not want to be in a relationship with a momma’s boy. There has been many movies and shows depicting this, all to the tune of a negative, yet for some reason the ‘daddy’s little girl’ concept is rarely looked down upon as being just as negative. The daddy’s girl thing is supposed to be cute and innocent, while the momma’s boy thing is looked upon as weak and utterly useless.
Help me out: what is the difference between the two besides gender? What signifies a female who clings to her daddy to be stronger than the male who clings to his momma? We as men are not TAUGHT to look for a strong woman or lady in when seeking out the opposite sex for a relationship or marriage. We are foolishly taught to find a woman that can cook, or clean, or have good sex, or has the ability to have children to pass on the legacy; we are not taught to find a woman who can hold her own, who has ambition or who is not overly dependent on her daddy or ‘daddy figure’ . We are taught to inevitably STAY AWAY FROM THEM; almost the opposite of what a woman is taught.
We do not flag a female who is still physically, emotionally or psychologically living with her daddy as a problem, yet the male at home with his momma is heresy. We overlook her lack of control over herself, her insecurity when it comes to commitment, her lack of socialization and independence, her lack of drive to BE somebody and her lack of any form of real sophistication for her willingness to give up the body when desired, her ability to cook or settle for less than she deserves, yet these extreme blemishes in character are shunned in the male.
It’s just amazing how society ignores the hypocrisies that it creates. To summarize, a woman can not teach a male to be a MAN no more than a man can teach a female to be a WOMAN. The ONLY thing a man can do for a female in this area is SHOW HER WHAT A TRUE MAN IS. Same for a WOMAN dealing with a male. if neither one knows what it means to be a man or woman, then heaven help them.